2 Things to Rember During an Unplanned Pregnancy
God’s goal for your life on earth is not comfort, but character development.
I was making my oatmeal this morning, and standing and waiting for the two minutes felt like an eternity. I was thinking to myself, how many times am I rushing around and not even noticing how the time is passing?
I think back to sitting in a classroom and waiting for the clock to hit 3:00 for the final bell to ring. IT was like torture! The same is true when we’re working through a difficult time. The time starts to pass slowly and hard.
I was filled with so much anxiety and worry about the future when I was going through my divorce. I wasted days and hours worrying and feeling sick over things I had no control over. I can remember being at work and not being able to focus. I remember sitting in my parent’s hot, but with my mom and my mind a million miles away.
Once the reality of my unplanned pregnancy settled in my mind, I was able to live.
We all go through notable periods in our lives and challenging times. The one mantra that I’ve always lived by is the only constant in life is change. I knew this, yet, it doesn’t make going through changes less hard. Over time, I’ve learned how to accept these situations over which I have no control. I change the things I can and ask God daily to show me the difference between the two.
Having experienced an unplanned pregnancy was such a wake-up call for me. It gave me a purpose, and hope comes from having a purpose.
If you are feeling hopeless right now, buckle up! Incredible changes will happen in your life as soon as you begin to live it on purpose.
God says, “I know what I am planning for you….’ I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future.” The first few hours and days after learning that I was pregnant made me feel like I was in an impossible situation. Still, the more I opened up and talked to people about what I was going through, the felt less hopeless and hopeful.
I learned an important lesson at that moment. I knew that life won’t always align with my plans but with God’s plans. And for whatever reason, he chose this moment for me to step into motherhood.
I know God can do far more than I could have ever asked or dreamed of.
I had bouts of awe and wonder and extreme fear and confusion in my relationship.
Just as God had made me for a reason, he also decided when my firstborn would be born. He planned the days of her life in advance. He chose the time of her birth.
I love this quote from The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, “Regardless of the circumstances of your birth or who your parents are, God had a plan in creating you. It doesn’t matter whether your parents were good, bad, or indifferent. God knew that those two individuals possessed exactly the right genetic makeup to create the custom “you” he had in mind.
They had the DNA God wanted to make you….While there are illegitimate parents, there are no illegitimate children.
Many children are unplanned by their parents, but they are not unplanned by God. God’s purpose took into account human error and even sin.”
“God never does anything accidentally, and he never makes mistakes.”
It’s so true. We aren’t exempt from hard times or difficulties, and having a baby when it wasn’t in your plans is no different.
It’s an opportunity for growth, realignment, and grounding yourself in God’s plan for you and your baby.
The pain and sorry you feel when learning that you are pregnant will pass. It’s okay to grieve your past life. It’s okay to mourn and feel sad. And as soon as you’re ready, feeling excited and joyful is okay.
Now, tell your baby you love her and can’t wait to meet her. Ready to feel more positive through your pregnancy? We’d love to welcome you when the doors open. Get on the waitlist here.
As always, I’d love to pray for you and your baby. Shoot me a DM on IG with your due date!
Rooting for you always,
xx - Ashley
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